When Life Is Tough-Sail On My Friends….


Remember you always have a choice on how to live your life. If life strikes you down or you fall in some way…just get back up and keep trying. You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.


Types of Stress..Eustress


Stress is a part of the human experience. I find that identifying stress types can be very helpful in learning to accept passing moments with more ease.

From my research over the years I have found 3 broad categories of stress:




In this post I want to discuss the later.


Eustress means “good stress”.

According to Wikipedia:

“Eustress was originally explored in a stress model by Richard Lazarus, it is the positive cognitive response to stress that is healthy, or gives one a feeling of fulfillment or other positive feelings .” Eustress is not defined by the stressor type, but rather how one perceives that stressor (e.g. a negative threat versus a positive challenge).Eustress refers to a positive response one has to a stressor, which can depend on one’s current feelings of control, desirability, location, and timing of the stressor. Potential indicators of eustress may include responding to a stressor with a sense of meaning, hope, or vigor.  Eustress has also been positively correlated with life satisfaction and well-being.”


Sometimes we find ourselves confused and overwhelmed because we feel stress.

Keep your mind aware by using mindfulness, the next time stress comes your way, and see if you may be experiencing Eustress.

Eustress helps a person grow.

We all have different tolerance levels to stress including Eustress. To lead a more peaceful life we must learn to identify our stress and set healthy boundaries.


~Wishing you well this day

The Mindful Gatekeeper



Reserving Judgement…Should Statements

Should Statements are an attempt to motivate ourselves by using guilt.

Guilt is a powerful emotion that can be hurtful when misused.

“She shouldn’t do that. She ought to do this instead”

“He must not do that. He should do this instead”

Should statements cause resentment and anger towards ourselves or towards others.

Remember in Mindfulness we see and don’t evaluate. We look at just the facts. We focus on the WHAT..not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”. (Handout 3)

Unglue your opinions. Let the judgements go. Let them pass by like a train rolling down the track in front of you.

When you find yourself judging. DON’T JUDGE YOUR JUDGING. (Handout 3)

It is what it is and now you can relax.

~Wishing you well this day

The Mindful Gatekeeper

Two Videos To Introduce You To Mindfulness

Mindfulness can help everyone have a more complete and peaceful life. Here are 2 videos that help introduce the concept of Mindfulness.

The first link is more secular/psychological presentation from Garden of Now


The second link features Thich Nhat Hahn a Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, Peace Activist, Teacher, and Author



The Mindful Gatekeeper

Learning To See

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In the last post I talked about reserving judgement when being Mindful.

What that means is that you have to become aware of the different mindsets and then learn to Observe.

First all the mind is not the brain it is a state that is generated under certain circumstances. In my experience there are 3 mind states that all are to work together.

  1. Emotional Mind
  2. Reasonable Mind
  3. Wise Mind

Emotional Mind is when a person is influenced by their natural emotions.  All emotions are valid and natural. This is where your feelings live. This mind is full of drama. But it has a function that is very important…The Emotional Mind is a messenger.

Reasonable Mind deals in facts, lists, organization, and logic. It is flat and has no emotion. Reasonable mind’s function is to look at just the facts.

Wise Mind factors in both the Emotional Mind and Reasonable Mind to intuitively make a unique and wise decision based on truth.  Everyone has a Wise Mind.

These 3 mood states are designed to work together.

The Emotional Mind will alert the Reasonable that something needs attention…that is all it is supposed to do. Then the Reasonable Mind will look at  just the facts and the Wise Mind will make the decision.

Both Emotional Mind and Reasonable need to work in unison for the Wise Mind to work most effectively.

We all use our Wise Mind in different circumstances. Sometimes it is harder to use Wise Mind in particular areas in our lives.

I always say to myself why didn’t they teach us this in school? Emotional/Mental intelligence sometimes needs to be learned not guessed.

So now that you know what the 3 states of mind are and how they work together, it is time to talk about learning to Observe.

In Mindfulness we break things down and practice one idea at a time. Observing is just to see. When we see things we just see them. It is the first component to understanding and the only part we use when Observing.  Just notice what is going on and reserve your judgement while doing so. Do not react to what you see. Let experience come and go…let the images slide right out of your mind like your mind is a slick surface. Let an experience be just an experience. Do not ask why. Hold on to nothing. Just let the thoughts and images come in to your mind and go by. Be alert to all images, thoughts, feelings, actions, emotions that passes through your mind and let them go on by like a train going down the track…don’t jump onto the train..just let it pass on by. Watch your thoughts and feelings (etc) like watching them go by on a conveyor belt. Be sure to notice all of the sensations in your body through your 5 senses. If it is raining feel the rain on your skin. If the sun is warm experience the warmth. Smell the flowers or the food cooking. See the birds flying through the sky. Taste the sweetness of a strawberry.Watch the clouds go by in the sky.


Do not describe any of what you observe to yourself. Just watch and notice and be.

Think about this for awhile, chew it over in your mind, and try observing in this way. The door to more peace and satisfaction is opening.

Wishing you all well,

The Mindful Gatekeeper

Taking Hold Of Your Mind

Stress can come in many ways. Life can be so hectic and time can slip away in this world that values multi-tasking and busy schedules. SometimesFeatured on Tumblr   stress happens due to having trouble implementing structure or routine. Many people have stress because they think happiness is a goal to reach in the future.

All of this is a symptom of living life in a less aware state of mind.

Why must we do this? Probably because our world expects more in a faster manner due to technological advances and lifestyle choices. Maybe a person is born with challenges (or to circumstances) making life events and daily activities more overwhelming to tolerate.

The reality is that if we want more “happiness” then we have to take action.

This brings us to the point of the discussion today…. Mindfulness.

Mindfulness is paying a purposeful attention to our 5 senses, thoughts, emotions, feelings, behaviors and so on in a non- judgemental way to take control of your mind.

Anyone in any situation or spiritual path can use Mindfulness. This very highly effective skill can change a person’s life for the better and just keep deepening throughout time. This skill can be used anywhere and anytime…talk about convenient! To use this skill you must reserve your judgement, be open to new ideas and be willing.

Before we can talk about using Mindfulness it is important that we go through the anatomy of the skill to fully understand the process and how to use it effectively.

In my next post I will start talking about reserving judgement and how that plays a very important role in learning how to take hold of your mind.

Also on a side note this blog is about truth and at some point I may address an issue that is sensitive to some. Truth is a very important ingredient within the recipe for a more peaceful life. So please bear with me and forge onward in these moments if lasting peace is what you desire.

Wishing you all the best on this day….

The Mindful Gatekeeper