Further Learning on Reserving Judgment

When one is trying to reserve judgement you must learn to look at just the facts.

Do not evaluate.

Think of yourself as a detective who looks at the “what” of the situation only….”not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”(DBT handout 3).”

Let go of your judgements.

Just accept what is…that is all.

It is what it is.

If you find yourself judging yourself…“Don’t judge your judging.”(DBT handout 3)

Go back to just Observing the situation.

Practice:

A MINDFULNESS EXERCISE

Use the above exercise to practice using your non judgemental awareness.

~Wishing you well this day,

The Mindful Gatekeeper

Learning to Separate Fact From Opinion

It is important for us to understand the difference between fact and opinion when learning to reserve judgement while being Mindful.

Opinions are not facts.

Sometimes under stressful situations the Emotional Mind can drive our opinions which can create the snowball effect talked about in the Putting Words On An Experience post.

Here is the difference according to Get Self Help:

FACTS                                                                           

Evidence to support the truth

Undisputed

Driven by rational thought

OPINIONS

Based on belief or personal view

Varies according to individual beliefs, culture, experience

Driven and enforced by emotion

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When our Emotional Mind “snowballs” emotions can lead to unconstructive and unhelpful consequences which can keep us “stuck” in a problem. To get “unstuck” one needs to look at just the facts…which are the concrete reality of the situation.

For instance…

If you are standing on a summer day outside under a clear blue sky..

FACT                                                       

The sky is blue

The clouds are white

OPINION

It’s a beautiful day

Our thoughts many times are opinions. Once we realize and separate fact from opinion it helps us to reserve our judgement and see clearly.