When one is trying to reserve judgement you must learn to look at just the facts.
Do not evaluate.
Think of yourself as a detective who looks at the “what” of the situation only….”not the “good” or “bad”, the “terrible” or “wonderful”, the “should” or “should not”(DBT handout 3).”
Let go of your judgements.
Just accept what is…that is all.
It is what it is.
If you find yourself judging yourself…“Don’t judge your judging.”(DBT handout 3)
Go back to just Observing the situation.
A MINDFULNESS EXERCISE
Use the above exercise to practice using your non judgemental awareness.
~Wishing you well this day,
The Mindful Gatekeeper
It is important for us to understand the difference between fact and opinion when learning to reserve judgement while being Mindful.
Opinions are not facts.
Sometimes under stressful situations the Emotional Mind can drive our opinions which can create the snowball effect talked about in the Putting Words On An Experience post.
Here is the difference according to Get Self Help:
Evidence to support the truth
Driven by rational thought
Based on belief or personal view
Varies according to individual beliefs, culture, experience
Driven and enforced by emotion
When our Emotional Mind “snowballs” emotions can lead to unconstructive and unhelpful consequences which can keep us “stuck” in a problem. To get “unstuck” one needs to look at just the facts…which are the concrete reality of the situation.
If you are standing on a summer day outside under a clear blue sky..
The sky is blue
The clouds are white
It’s a beautiful day
Our thoughts many times are opinions. Once we realize and separate fact from opinion it helps us to reserve our judgement and see clearly.